Rite of Passage

What is a Rite of Passage?

A Rite of Passage is a special event signifying a transition from one stage to another. This is an ideal time to affirm and help your child anticipate and prepare to accept God’s plan for the future. Challenge your teen to leave behind the world of childhood and invite them into the ranks of emerging adulthood. 

How to do a Rite of Passage

It is less important how you plan your child’s Rite of Passage than that you plan it. Some families host a simple dinner with family and close friends. Others do something more elaborate, such as a road trip adventure with various stops. Decide and plan what works best for your teen and your situation.

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Step One:
Create a plan to make this a meaningful experience. A small investment of thought and effort will mean a great deal to your son or daughter.   

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Step Two: 

Invite people who have had an impact on your teen’s life and/or whom they respect. Give each person a specific topic on which he or she will speak or write a letter. Some topics may include work, marriage, integrity, faith, purity, family, etc. 

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Step Three: 

Make it easy for others to participate by providing them with recommended wording for their talk or letter in order to help them avoid becoming nervous or attending ill-prepared. Sample letters

Give a Blessing

It is very important that parents use this milestone to give a blessing, usually in the form of a letter affirming the teen’s potential and expressing gratitude for his or her life. Blessing resources

Give a Vision for the Future

Take time to provide direction for the future. Cast vision and direct your child in seeking the Lord as they enter a season of significant decisions that will impact the future.   

Give a Gift

Consider purchasing or making something to give your teen during this time. It doesn’t need to be extravagant. It is more important that it serves as a tangible keepsake of the event that your child can hold on to for years to come. Ideas include a piece of jewelry and a book of letters/blessings.

Set the Stage

The Rite of Passage event serves as an opportunity to set a new tone for the changing relationship with your child. Your role is changing from primarily teacher to mostly coach as he or she accepts the new freedoms and responsibilities that accompany young adulthood. Let your child know that you will be there to help him or her work through the challenges and navigate the landmines as they take ownership for choices and a future walk with God. Plan to create intentional one-on-one times to connect and keep the lines of communication open over the coming months and years.  

Intentionality this Year

• Schedule and have regular Family Time.
  • Create a habit of worship with your child.
  • Consistently spend time in God’s Word with your child.
  • Pray daily for and with your child.
• Bless your child daily.
• Schedule a time to bless and give your child a vision for the future.